Moving On From Trauma And The Past

Dr. Allen Lycka Self Care

Does trauma from your past hang around your body like an anchor, causing you to struggle to move forward. When I say trauma, I’m not referring to only huge events. Small traumas can cause more harm than you realize. Today, I would like to discuss how you can move on from your past. While I hope you find these tips helpful, it is important to remember they don’t replace the need for a professional therapist. If you need help, please reach out

Reframe negative thoughts 

Negativity comes from a place of hurt and it focuses on keeping you down. Take time to consider how you can fight against that. What words, symbols or other devices can help you? Instead of telling yourself you are a failure when something doesn’t work out how you hoped, try to laugh, and use a device of positivity to counter that negativity.  

Find space 

Give yourself a sanctuary where only positivity is allowed. Make it comfortable and make it your own. Allow you personality to shine through and keep negative energy out. That could mean leaving your phone or tablet in another room. By creating distance between yourself and negative forces, you allow yourself to breathe and connect with yourself. In today’s fast paced society, we don’t do this enough! 

Accept that you are not in control 

The past is the past, you cannot change it nor can you change people. Someone who hurt you may never give you the satisfaction of an apology. It’s important for your own well-being to find it within yourself to move past that pain. Allow yourself to find acceptance in that what you can’t control. 

Surround yourself with good people 

You are the sum of the five people who you spend the most time with. It’s a saying with some science to back it up. When you spend time around people, you take part of their personality with you. Moreover, their words and actions stick in your heart and your mind. So, be sure to surround yourself with people who bring out the best in you.  

These steps will hopefully help you move on from the past and reach your potential.  

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